For the last 5 years my parents have been very sick.I quit working so i could look after them and the house and everything.My Dad just passed and my mom is very sick and no hope of recovery.Bought a 72 442 so i could incorporate some cruising with the daily routine as i love the older classics.When things get to me i like to just cruise and listen to my music and clear my head and prepare for the next bad thing and how to deal with my Dads estate.Seems like the teens and 20 year olds are mostly morons as i have had a mustang get mad as i would not race and rocked me.Hit the molding on windshield.Another sunfire the same thing and a chip on the hood.A rusted suburban wanted to race and tore off.Later went by him avoiding rusty pieces as he was pulled over with the engine smoking.Some right on my bumper when we are the only ones on the street.One gave me the finger because i stopped at a crosswalk to let a 12 yo boy and his younger sister cross the street.One showed me his beer proudly reminding me my nephew was killed by a drunk driver.Its not so enjoyable anymore.Lots of other things and all 17 to 25 years old.Some real cool ones with sunglasses and hats backwards.Wrote a letter to the editor as i am getting worried about my safety and others in hoping that i dont have to sell my car as its the only relief i get anymore.Im almost a senior but and idiot is an idiot to all.Yes Swift Current.Where life makes sense.I obey all traffic rules.Stop signal speed limit and zones and bother no one.Its just the good feeling for a change.Like there is hope.Seeing both parents dying with no hope am i asking for too much.You here on the sight have been through a lot too and have helped me before with advice and comment about my car and dealing with death and fighting over wills.Yes i guess i have been going through hell but my parents are the most important things in the world and now i have only one for a while yet.
Canadian Poncho said
Jun 17, 2012
Sorry to hear about what you are going through. My wife did the same thing. She quit her good job as an Operations Analyst for a large insurance company to look after her parents full time. She did that for 5 years. Her dad passed in 2010, her mom in 2011. She is now back working although all she can find is part time at minimum wage. Still, she wouldn't hesitate to do it again. It takes a special person to make such a sacrifice. I'm very proud of her and hats off to you for doing the same thing. As for other drivers, there are a lot of losers out there. A friend of mine was in London pulling a trailer and as he waited to pull out into traffic the guy behind him got impatient, laid on the horn, pulled around beside him and gave him the finger. That wasn't enough so he rolled down his window and tossed some garbage at his truck and peeled away.
427carl said
Jun 17, 2012
swift1960 wrote:
You here on the sight have been through a lot too and have helped me before with advice and comment about my car and dealing with death and fighting over wills
.Yes i guess i have been going through hell but my parents are the most important things in the world and now i have only one for a while yet.
Wow
What strength you are showing,as you step up, and do a Mans job..
Hang in there... Ignore the idiots around you!!
As Todd relates, they are everywhere...
but for every 10 you see there are 90 obeying the law
Keep doing what your are doing... do not change...
Your character is what you do, when no one is around....
When you need a lift talk to US
Delta Tango said
Jun 17, 2012
swift1960 wrote:
Some right on my bumper when we are the only ones on the street.One gave me the finger because i stopped at a crosswalk to let a 12 yo boy and his younger sister cross the street.One showed me his beer proudly reminding me my nephew was killed by a drunk driver.Its not so enjoyable anymore.
i am getting worried about my safety and others in hoping that i dont have to sell my car as its the only relief i get anymore.Im almost a senior but and idiot is an idiot to all.
Sorry I have editted this abit. But I'm with you. I had a similar "scarey" incident a year ago. Leaving my middle-class neighborhood in south Calgary one sunny afternoon, sun roof open on the CTS, sporting my new Cadillac hat, I must have looked like a "geezer" or something. Who knows? Anyhow, I stopped for a pedestrian in a crosswalk. This young "babe" in a late model BMW 300 series convert nearly plows into me from behind (texting I bet) then proceeds to lay on the horn. I of course am in partial shock even more so to hear when the language starts coming at me from this young lady. i made the mistake of giving a "what the hey" shrug at her while looking in the mirror at her. I received the finger, to which i replyed.
Now the scarey part....through all this immature display from both myself and the chic, buddy in the crosswalk thinks I'm gesturing at him! He flips out and appoaches my car, screaming I'm a jerk, he's trying to just cross the road (which he was) and that he hates jerks like me, drops his slurpee and is ready "lets go old-man"! He is just shy of coming at me through the sun roof.
You know what, the lights green, the kids outta the crosswalk, I'm adda here. The next light which was red, the chic pulls up, still mad, "You're a real jerk buddy", on and on.
Big mistake on my part. I should not of reacted to any of that. I just should have sat there and waited for the kid to cross. One thing is for sure now, I'm darned careful when and where I have my sun roof open now, which is really sad, but in our world today, you just don't know anymore.
pontorquer said
Jun 17, 2012
Sorry to hear this too, That's why I myself prefer cruising in the back country roads where it seems to be more peaceful and pretend I am driving back in the good old days, lol. All the best to you ...
swift1960 said
Jun 17, 2012
I pretty much have to stay in town in case i get a call.Have secure tech for mom and she can need help very quickly.Have a cell which only very few people know.If my phone rings im on the way home.Im kind of stuck right here in Swift.She has copd and is on oxygen and has told the doctors she will only stay at home with me.I understand as i get her out a bit when shes feeling good and in a home she would just give up.Also have Brother disowned her because of the will.Im pretty much by myself with the help of some good home care people.Everything bad that can happen has and i cant seem to find any peace when needed the most.Im guessing its jusy a lot to do with how kids are brought up.We were taught to respect all and all other possesions.Maybe the parents should start raising their kids instaed of just having them.
swift1960 said
Jun 17, 2012
Tommorow i am taking my 442 to my fathers final resting place and saying happy fathers day.If anyone shows up and starts it will be a mistake.If i cant even do that then i will explode.
MorePower said
Jun 17, 2012
tear tear.....wow....I so feel for you my friend. I have so much respect for you to not only take care of your folks but take cre of the estate and things. My folks havent passed yet but are not healthy.(self inflicted/neglect) mostly to give us kids a better life.
With all due respect I do not know if you are a god fearing man and if not we willpray for you. When times have been rough for myself and others I have put my faith in God. If it wasnt for God my wife, son I would not be here. I totally see how frustrated you must feel. And when someone does you wrong you feel irritated because other people havent a remote clue of what you are dealing with where their lives are petty. Times like these are rough and go gives you what you can handle. Please dont take this the wrong way but there were many many times where I felt like crap because I am sick and asked god why me....what did I do to endure this? Who did I wrong? why me? Now I know. It is to help others, be an advocate,spread awareness. Be positive. I still have my faults. I can admit it. I am human. I have learned through all of this to forgive. Doesn mean I have to forget either. I been wrong by others and rather hold on to it. I have let it go. I just will never repeat being wronged to again.
There is a passage in the bible that talks about this.
God says. Quick to Forgive, Slow to Anger. I try everyday to be this way. No one is perfect. We are all allowed to get angry, be upset for being wronged. The person in the other car doesnt know what you are going through. Perhaps the other person just buried a relative, or got told they had cancer or something and having an equaly bad day. Every person deals with bad news differently. Some are scared and hide under a rock, some get mad, some deal with it rationally. At church last year I remember a sermon with my pastor discussing being in a parking lot and inadvertantly taking a parking spot not realising he took it prior to someone else waiting for it and a lady flipped him the bird. I doubt sge would have done that knowing he was a pastor and I highly doubt he would have intentionally taken the parking spot. I know this man very well for 8 years. He is a kind genuine man. He respresents us the christians at our church very well.
Whether you are the tight rope walker who walked across the Niagara Falls, or sick like me and your mom and others. Perhaps a little prayer may go a long way. Seek in God. I am not afraid to anounce my faith in fear of what others may think, its what Jesus wants me to do. The 2.3 Billion people and over 1/3 of the world beleive this. I will pray for you and your mom. God has a plan for you. It maybe very difficult to see, understand and comprehend now. Trust me. I been there asking???WHY? But things will be they way they are supposed to. As for A Holes on the road, drinking, throwing garbage. Its just free will, as we as humans are responsible for the world as it is today. I admit myself I have been angry at others for driving, and others have been angry at me. We are human. I pound this in my head everyday and its very hard most days.....quick to forgive slow to anger. Its a tough one...It would be very easy for my 6 ft 1 tall 250lbs frame to get out of my car and drop someone very easily. My pain tolerance is higher than 99% of people. But its easier to push the power window buttom UP and drive away too. easier said than done?
Visit your dad know he is before God, in a place of no pain, no disease or sickness. Surrounded by grace. He knows how much you love and miss him. He is at peace. Please let peace be with you.
Blessings my friend.
-- Edited by MorePower on Sunday 17th of June 2012 02:13:04 PM
tmfbi69 said
Jun 17, 2012
My kind thoughts are with you,I had to take care of family matters until my parents ends also . It is not a happy time,but it is part of life..Hopefully our kids will do the same for us when required. As far as the new generation ,it is called RESPECT (or lack of) Keep your faith!!! Tony
Captain Beaumont said
Jun 17, 2012
Yesterday saw a 3 car pile up at a crosswalk ! the nerve of someone stopping
there.
swift1960 said
Jun 17, 2012
Thanks to all for the comments advice and esp. support.I am not one who believes in violence or fighting and i certainly believe in god.I am just so disheartened with how some people are.I am asking for nothing really except to let me continue to take care of my mom.When people purposely do damage to ones vehicle like has happened then its a problem.It seems its a just a group of friends that have nothing better to do than make someones life miserable and being around 110 pounds they figure i wont fight back.I wont as i dont believe in violence but i will do what i can using the police and the power of letting people know.I used to be 140 but have lost a lot of weight due to stress and things.Have not been in contact with friends and have taken them off my facebook list as i feel they think im going crazy and dont want to bother them with my problems as we have enough with our own.Have my nephew coming for a couple weeks on friday and am soo looking forward to that.He is more like a son to me as his Dad my brother has disowned his own 3 kids.They think of me as the their dad and it makes me feel great.The other 2 will be down later in july or august and they all love their gramma and me.We are their only family and are from the yukon.I also had a nervous breakdown a few years ago and am a recoverd alcoholic.Through the whole time i have always respected all and have never tried to cause any hurt feelings or problems.My parents taught me that well.I am really trying my best and sometimes it just gets so overwhelming.I am not asking for anything except to do nothing and be human.Today is Fathers Day and the first for me without my Dad.Am getting ready to take Mom out for supper and continue to live a little.Hopefully somehow people might see whats going on and see im not going to harm anyone or anything and just let us be peaceful and happy.Mom really deserves it and i think i do too.Thx fellow cruisers and life enjoyers.I try to use all of your wisdom along with what i have been taught and i guess its just a case of bumps in the road.Hoping mine smoothes out soon.Happy Fathers day.
MorePower said
Jun 18, 2012
Todays sermon-Ephesians 5 20-29
Love God,Spouse,Children in that order, With God being the Head, You, yourself being the Head of the household, the Head of the family and the Head as a father. Was a great sermon today and I thought of you and what you are endering today. God is with you. And your mom and dad.
Peace and many blessings
Magician40 said
Jun 18, 2012
You know Randy, i also have a 72 442 convert. 4sp. My Dad loved to drive my car, we would go down roads that were new to both of us just to see where they went. Now he has gone and every time i am out with this car i see my Dad shifting gears and smiling. These are great and sad memories at the same time. You are on the right path. Dad used to say we all die, but so many people never live. Brian
swift1960 said
Jun 18, 2012
Keep that car Brian.I got to give my dad a ride before he passed and although he didnt talk much he would smile and enjoyed just looking around at things.When i asked where he would like to go he said it didnt matter just drive around.It was a very happy day for me.Somehow i will get through this with memories and good friends and people like you with your words of encouragement.I know it wasnt the car that made my dad smile it was the fact he saw it made me happy and he knew i needed something to help me through things.Even at my age my parents both worry about me and they know its going to be tough on me as we have an incredible relationship.They really are incredible.
CDN2PLS2 said
Jun 19, 2012
Stick to what you Believe,be True to Yourself!
Jennifer and Wayne said
Jun 19, 2012
Hi Swift, I was just reading your thread, I hope you and your mom had a pleasant supper out, it must have been a difficult day for you both. How long had your parents been married?
As the others have said before me, there are far far more nicer people in this world then bad. But it's the ones who are rude and mean who seem to get the attention. As with any bad behavior it is usually best to not give in to their attempt at attention seeking, unless of course it is causing you or someone else harm.
Try not to let them ruin your outings, continue doing what your doing and keep the faith. You still have your mom, try to enjoy that while you can, I'm sure your dad was relieved in knowing you would be there for her.
Try not to let those kill joys ruin your day, your car, your trips out. It's your street too enjoy it. It isn't easy but you sound like you can do it.
Good Luck and best wishes.
PS I have sister in Shaunavon, she has a small nursing home and seems to be in much the same situation. Although they are not her blood relatives, she seems to be the only family alot of them have, they are mostly forgotten by the really families. Sad isn't it?
I think it is awesome that you are able to do what your doing.
Hang in there.
The Big Kahuna said
Jun 19, 2012
Stay strong Swift!
swift1960 said
Jun 19, 2012
Yes Jen and Wayne.It is sad as it seems whem people get older even the families just stay away.In our case its because the ones farthest away are the ones who care and cant get around much.the ones closest seem to figure they can no longer get any more money or help.Ive heard there are lots of those out there but my family is extreme.Oldest brother sent his 84 yo mom with copd who just lost her husband a letter saying he has disowned her because he has seen the will and is not getting enough.The will says all is split equal with us 3 boys except i get the house for doing what im doing.One brother thinks thats great and proper as i have no other house.The one bitching has 10 including rental units.He will not even talk to us now.Isnt that the way to treat your mother.He is 270 pounds and figures he owns the world.I guess thats always on the back of my mind also.My good brother lives in shaunavon also.The bad one in swift and saskatoon and shaunavon.The bitching brother has also disowned his own kids and grandkids too.He is quite the work of art.His kids think of me as their father more than him.One is going to be here friday to visit with Mom and me for about 10 days and we are so happy he is coming.My nephew and I are going to do some cruising as he hasnt saw my car yet.Just pictures.My nephew is 6 4 and i dont think i will be hasseled too much as most are actually only brave and tough when its just one guy about 5 7 110 pounds.Have been put through hell and am still going and im proud of that and have been their for my parents at all times good and bad and am the only one that can say that.Just somedays i get so disheartened and thats where all you come in.A nice pick me up and more strength.Using all i can to get through it all and will continue to do wahts right no matter what.Friday my nephew arrives.A blessing i tell you.
swift1960 said
Jun 19, 2012
My picture by the way is Trixie moms little girl who has been an angel since we got her 5 years ago.She loves mom so much and keeps her warm and happy.She is a very special dog who seems to know when mom needs some comfort.She is the most friendly dog ive ever seen.She will not hurt a thing and is so full of love.I didnt want another dog as we had to put our 15 year old dog down in 2007 but mom said a while after she would like another one.A couple weeks later i headed to Lacombe alberta and we had a new addition to our family.
For the last 5 years my parents have been very sick.I quit working so i could look after them and the house and everything.My Dad just passed and my mom is very sick and no hope of recovery.Bought a 72 442 so i could incorporate some cruising with the daily routine as i love the older classics.When things get to me i like to just cruise and listen to my music and clear my head and prepare for the next bad thing and how to deal with my Dads estate.Seems like the teens and 20 year olds are mostly morons as i have had a mustang get mad as i would not race and rocked me.Hit the molding on windshield.Another sunfire the same thing and a chip on the hood.A rusted suburban wanted to race and tore off.Later went by him avoiding rusty pieces as he was pulled over with the engine smoking.Some right on my bumper when we are the only ones on the street.One gave me the finger because i stopped at a crosswalk to let a 12 yo boy and his younger sister cross the street.One showed me his beer proudly reminding me my nephew was killed by a drunk driver.Its not so enjoyable anymore.Lots of other things and all 17 to 25 years old.Some real cool ones with sunglasses and hats backwards.Wrote a letter to the editor as i am getting worried about my safety and others in hoping that i dont have to sell my car as its the only relief i get anymore.Im almost a senior but and idiot is an idiot to all.Yes Swift Current.Where life makes sense.I obey all traffic rules.Stop signal speed limit and zones and bother no one.Its just the good feeling for a change.Like there is hope.Seeing both parents dying with no hope am i asking for too much.You here on the sight have been through a lot too and have helped me before with advice and comment about my car and dealing with death and fighting over wills.Yes i guess i have been going through hell but my parents are the most important things in the world and now i have only one for a while yet.
As for other drivers, there are a lot of losers out there. A friend of mine was in London pulling a trailer and as he waited to pull out into traffic the guy behind him got impatient, laid on the horn, pulled around beside him and gave him the finger. That wasn't enough so he rolled down his window and tossed some garbage at his truck and peeled away.
Wow
What strength you are showing,as you step up, and do a Mans job..
Hang in there... Ignore the idiots around you!!
As Todd relates, they are everywhere...
but for every 10 you see there are 90 obeying the law
Keep doing what your are doing... do not change...
Your character is what you do, when no one is around....
When you need a lift talk to US
Sorry I have editted this abit. But I'm with you. I had a similar "scarey" incident a year ago. Leaving my middle-class neighborhood in south Calgary one sunny afternoon, sun roof open on the CTS, sporting my new Cadillac hat, I must have looked like a "geezer" or something. Who knows? Anyhow, I stopped for a pedestrian in a crosswalk. This young "babe" in a late model BMW 300 series convert nearly plows into me from behind (texting I bet) then proceeds to lay on the horn. I of course am in partial shock even more so to hear when the language starts coming at me from this young lady. i made the mistake of giving a "what the hey" shrug at her while looking in the mirror at her. I received the finger, to which i replyed.
Now the scarey part....through all this immature display from both myself and the chic, buddy in the crosswalk thinks I'm gesturing at him! He flips out and appoaches my car, screaming I'm a jerk, he's trying to just cross the road (which he was) and that he hates jerks like me, drops his slurpee and is ready "lets go old-man"! He is just shy of coming at me through the sun roof.
You know what, the lights green, the kids outta the crosswalk, I'm adda here. The next light which was red, the chic pulls up, still mad, "You're a real jerk buddy", on and on.
Big mistake on my part. I should not of reacted to any of that. I just should have sat there and waited for the kid to cross. One thing is for sure now, I'm darned careful when and where I have my sun roof open now, which is really sad, but in our world today, you just don't know anymore.
Sorry to hear this too, That's why I myself prefer cruising in the back country roads where it seems to be more peaceful and pretend I am driving back in the good old days, lol. All the best to you ...
tear tear.....wow....I so feel for you my friend. I have so much respect for you to not only take care of your folks but take cre of the estate and things. My folks havent passed yet but are not healthy.(self inflicted/neglect) mostly to give us kids a better life.
With all due respect I do not know if you are a god fearing man and if not we willpray for you. When times have been rough for myself and others I have put my faith in God. If it wasnt for God my wife, son I would not be here. I totally see how frustrated you must feel. And when someone does you wrong you feel irritated because other people havent a remote clue of what you are dealing with where their lives are petty. Times like these are rough and go gives you what you can handle. Please dont take this the wrong way but there were many many times where I felt like crap because I am sick and asked god why me....what did I do to endure this? Who did I wrong? why me? Now I know. It is to help others, be an advocate,spread awareness. Be positive. I still have my faults. I can admit it. I am human. I have learned through all of this to forgive. Doesn mean I have to forget either. I been wrong by others and rather hold on to it. I have let it go. I just will never repeat being wronged to again.
There is a passage in the bible that talks about this.
God says. Quick to Forgive, Slow to Anger. I try everyday to be this way. No one is perfect. We are all allowed to get angry, be upset for being wronged. The person in the other car doesnt know what you are going through. Perhaps the other person just buried a relative, or got told they had cancer or something and having an equaly bad day. Every person deals with bad news differently. Some are scared and hide under a rock, some get mad, some deal with it rationally. At church last year I remember a sermon with my pastor discussing being in a parking lot and inadvertantly taking a parking spot not realising he took it prior to someone else waiting for it and a lady flipped him the bird. I doubt sge would have done that knowing he was a pastor and I highly doubt he would have intentionally taken the parking spot. I know this man very well for 8 years. He is a kind genuine man. He respresents us the christians at our church very well.
Whether you are the tight rope walker who walked across the Niagara Falls, or sick like me and your mom and others. Perhaps a little prayer may go a long way. Seek in God. I am not afraid to anounce my faith in fear of what others may think, its what Jesus wants me to do. The 2.3 Billion people and over 1/3 of the world beleive this. I will pray for you and your mom. God has a plan for you. It maybe very difficult to see, understand and comprehend now. Trust me. I been there asking???WHY? But things will be they way they are supposed to. As for A Holes on the road, drinking, throwing garbage. Its just free will, as we as humans are responsible for the world as it is today. I admit myself I have been angry at others for driving, and others have been angry at me. We are human. I pound this in my head everyday and its very hard most days.....quick to forgive slow to anger. Its a tough one...It would be very easy for my 6 ft 1 tall 250lbs frame to get out of my car and drop someone very easily. My pain tolerance is higher than 99% of people. But its easier to push the power window buttom UP and drive away too. easier said than done?
Visit your dad know he is before God, in a place of no pain, no disease or sickness. Surrounded by grace. He knows how much you love and miss him. He is at peace. Please let peace be with you.
Blessings my friend.
-- Edited by MorePower on Sunday 17th of June 2012 02:13:04 PM
It is not a happy time,but it is part of life..Hopefully our kids will do the same for us when required.
As far as the new generation ,it is called RESPECT (or lack of) Keep your faith!!! Tony
Yesterday saw a 3 car pile up at a crosswalk ! the nerve of someone stopping
there.
Todays sermon-Ephesians 5 20-29
Love God,Spouse,Children in that order, With God being the Head, You, yourself being the Head of the household, the Head of the family and the Head as a father. Was a great sermon today and I thought of you and what you are endering today. God is with you. And your mom and dad.
Peace and many blessings
Brian
Keep that car Brian.I got to give my dad a ride before he passed and although he didnt talk much he would smile and enjoyed just looking around at things.When i asked where he would like to go he said it didnt matter just drive around.It was a very happy day for me.Somehow i will get through this with memories and good friends and people like you with your words of encouragement.I know it wasnt the car that made my dad smile it was the fact he saw it made me happy and he knew i needed something to help me through things.Even at my age my parents both worry about me and they know its going to be tough on me as we have an incredible relationship.They really are incredible.
Hi Swift, I was just reading your thread, I hope you and your mom had a pleasant supper out, it must have been a difficult day for you both. How long had your parents been married?
As the others have said before me, there are far far more nicer people in this world then bad. But it's the ones who are rude and mean who seem to get the attention. As with any bad behavior it is usually best to not give in to their attempt at attention seeking, unless of course it is causing you or someone else harm.
Try not to let them ruin your outings, continue doing what your doing and keep the faith. You still have your mom, try to enjoy that while you can, I'm sure your dad was relieved in knowing you would be there for her.
Try not to let those kill joys ruin your day, your car, your trips out. It's your street too enjoy it. It isn't easy but you sound like you can do it.
Good Luck and best wishes.
PS I have sister in Shaunavon, she has a small nursing home and seems to be in much the same situation. Although they are not her blood relatives, she seems to be the only family alot of them have, they are mostly forgotten by the really families. Sad isn't it?
I think it is awesome that you are able to do what your doing.
Hang in there.