I'm real sorry to hear about your loss! Life is way too short- even if you live to be a hundred. My mother-in-law is 75(widowed 10 years ago)and my wife and I try to do what we can to help her out as she is on a fixed income.Every year her old age pension(from her husband) goes down.Her rent here goes up as well as everything else and she struggles to make ends meet.That's our fine government at work taking care of the older generation.We try and have her over for dinner almost every weekend if she's up for it.I'm also a big believer of Karma.We always get back what we put out in this universe.And to add to the Amazing wife thread,my wife is one of the most patient women I know.She has been patient with the building of the 'Chief(which she thinks is so ugly!!)To you guys with fabulous women in your lives,take note and thank them.Where would we be without them?Just my 2 cents is all.
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Todd, we've been away at the lake for over a week.
I read your initial writing here hoping this thread would end with some kind of a miracle for you all but I see it was not to be.
You and Connie are very special people, as many here have stated. Children who care so lovingly for their aging parents are rare. I married a girl who cares about her parents and goes the extra mile for them as your wife does. Sometimes it's frustrating to see a wife give so much of her time to someone other than her own husband or children but inside we know it takes a one-in-a-million girl to do that.
We may be far away but I really hope you can feel a very large hug from us here to help you through this.
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I was with Brian this weekend, so I as well have missed this. I am sorry for you and your wifes loss. What a Nice way for yor inlaws to have had the opportunaty(sp?) to spend their golden years with their family, instead of being surrounded by strangers. While being a tough time dealing with your own personal sorrow, just think of how much time Your father inlaw enjoyed his time in that house with you. You 2 made the most of his remaining time. Sounds like it was just bad for the last few remaining days, thats all most of us can hope for. He died at home surrounded by his loved ones, I'm sure he died at piece. Good luck in the next few weeks having lost my father, I understand the feelings that Connie is feeling at this moment. We are here for you guys If you need an outlet, so don't forget that.
Its sad to here of Connie and your loss my thoughts are with you both. I have never had the chance to meet either of you in person but to have given so much of yourselves to make the quality of life better for her parents is a sacrifice few of us can say we are willing to make. You should both be very proud of yourselves. Vern
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Sorry for your loss Todd and Connie and Todd you do have a wonderful wife Connie gave me many words of encouragement when I opened up my shop and I still have the plant she gave me for good luck, Im always just a phone call away if you need a friend.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families.
Having lost my Dad 6 years ago under similar circumstances - abdominal aneurism surgery resulting in the loss of both legs below the knee, dialysis, etc. - I can relate to how difficult your situation was and how much it can take out of a family. For me, I didn't fully realize how much it had taken out of me until months after he passed away. While even to this day I struggle with the difficulties he faced, there is a certain sense of relief that he doesn't have to suffer any more.
Our condolences to a great couple. It sounds like you are both extremely flexible when it comes to looking after others! A great lesson for all of us. Dignity is priceless, and we can only hope someone will sacrifice their time and resources to maintain ours in the time of need. You have a keeper there! Sincerely sorry for your loss.
Thanks again guys. I look back at when my parents were sick and now wish I had of done more for them. If Connie had been in my life back then they probably would have also spent their last days at home. It takes a special person to be able to do this and I know I couldn't have done it. It's one thing to support a person who looks after their sick loved ones at home, but it's a whole other ball game being the caregiver. My job as the supporter was nothing compared to what she did!
My Condolenses Todd. I can relate, went through a similar situation 9 years ago with my wifes father. You have to take comfort in the fact the suffering is over and he is in a better place now. Take care and hold onto that wonderful wife of yours, she needs you now more than ever.
Todd i just logged on after some days away and am sorry for you and Connie's loss. I can relate with all the health problems my parents have had this year. Thankfully you are there to support her and i'm very lucky to have a wife to support all i've had to deal with because as an only child i had no siblings to help me. My dad just got a space in a nursing home about 5 min drive from our house a couple weeks ago. He had a stroke in Feb. and has been living on his own but i was concerned especially with him being a 40 min drive away. Meanwhile my mom has been in hospital since April but was released last week and went to her apartment. She has psychiatric illness and things have been tough for her for a while. She hit a low point and went to hospital. While there she got pnemonia and had blood clots form in her lungs. She was at Univ. hospital for a week or so in ICU at one point. She's on blood thinners right now, on a medication to help her with her depression and such and last week got to go home and seems to be doing well. Connie has done more than i'd ever be able to do, like having my parents move in. There aren't a lot of people who would put the care and compassion into taking care of their family like what you've mentioned here. I wish your family all the best.
Both Werner and Lottie had paid for funeral services in Kitchener. We called the funeral home located just around the corner from us and they said "Don't worry, spend time with your father and we'll handle the rest". It will be so much easier for Lottie to be able to have the service here in town.
Todd; I was searching for the local funeral home, hoping to post a place for the members to pay respects The local funeral home does not show a website Carl
The funeral home is McBeath-Dynes Funeral Home. I don't believe they have a website. We are asking that if anyone wished to donate please do so to the Dialysis unit at Woodstock General Hospital for the purchase of a new chair for the patients. You have specify it's for the chair in the dialysis unit or they won't get it. They really helped make Werner's 4 hour visits/3 times a week as cheerful as possible.
Carl